There comes a time when each of us recognizes that our time is limited. Many people realize that their life is half over at 45 or 50 years old. Although we still have many years ahead of us, the years no longer stretch endlessly in front of us.
Like Dan, I sometimes find myself arguing on the side of my limitations instead of my possibilities. I focus on being stuck in the problem instead of looking for opportunities. When I focus on opportunities and solutions instead, I can find ways to make life better.
Dr. Shannon talks about an effective technique to help changes become permanent. She suggests that we stack habits in our favour. We can link our new routines to solid, existing patterns.
When we agree to tasks that we prefer to avoid, we respond emotionally. We are attempting to send a message of kindness and acceptance to the other person. Responding to their distressed request for help with no seems unkind. It seems to devalue the other person. We prefer to appear kind and devalue ourselves.
lanning for success involves little thought. Your life is unique, so there are no automatic answers. When you start looking for personalized solutions, though, you will probably find ways to make life easier.
Look for the little things in your life that are obstacles to progress. Minor issues can often stop us from making progress. Identify one small thing that you can change now to improve your life.
Dr. Shannon recommends further that we don’t start with the hardest tasks. Instead, begin with the tasks that will set you up to succeed in your chosen life changes. She comments “Do the fast successes, immediate results that make everything else possible”. Focus on brain health.
Most of us have made New Year’s resolutions. Somehow, though, they seem easier to make than to keep. We make a resolution – we almost seem obligated – and have broken it just a week or two later. I have to admit that I’ve followed this pattern for a few years, if not decades.
I don’t keep track of my successes very well. Once I accomplish a commitment, I forget about the effort I put into making it real for myself. I forget how many little things I accomplish.